I meet so
many new brides-to-be and their families at Wedding Fairs and though normal first-time
enquiries for my Wedding Disco Entertainment Service. It is clear that by
default, due to the fact they have never planned a wedding before, that they
‘haven’t got a clue’, and why would they have a clue? It’s the first time they
have ever planned anything like this and they are always grateful for a bit of
guidance and a few tips before they go off and plan their special day in the
unique way that they want it. After you have become engaged it’s time to plan
the exciting part, your big day. However, you are planning one of the most
memorable and important days of your life, so where do you start?
Budgeting
- Money and
budgeting will, to a certain extent, control the way you plan your wedding and
this will certainly evolve as your plans and dreams maybe step up a gear, or if
you manage to come across some money over and above what you maybe thought was
your budget. Some couples will have a set rigid budget & stick to it whilst
others may have a more fluid maximum and minimum figure. Keep an eye on this
figure as you progress with your plans and keep a track on your spending. If
you are super-efficient, you could even create a Spreadsheet to keep a real
time account of what you spend and where? Just a thought? Another thought, have the
wedding that you want. Don’t compromise. If your costings of what you desire
exceed your budget, then I think it’s worth considering putting the wedding
back a year to enable you to save to have the wedding that you dreamed of and
therefore have no regrets.
Flexibility with Days and Dates - If possible, be flexible with
your dates. Your wedding can be as expensive as you want to make it, or as
economically streamlined as you want to make it, but my advice is to never
compromise with the quality of wedding service suppliers. Whilst pricing is an
important consideration, it’s not advisable to let your wedding be dominated by
budget if you want to create unforgettable happy memories and if you want the
best day ever for you as the bride and groom and your wedding guests.
That happy medium can be achieved
by looking at a few things and for me, the number one thing is the day and date
that you choose to get married. Quite simply put, by default, everyone usually
wants a Saturday Wedding and that is understandable. There are only 52
Saturdays in a year, so these are premium, and most wedding service suppliers
will find it difficult to offer worthwhile discounts for these days. However, these Saturdays
are obviously in very different times of the year. Late March to October and
December are very popular wedding months and again, it will be hard to find
wedding service suppliers who are able to do a price reduction deal on a Saturday
in these months. However, and certainly this goes for myself, I will offer a
discount with absolutely no compromise on the level of service provided if a
wedding is on a Saturday in January or February or November, which are
traditionally quieter months for weddings.
If a wedding is on a Friday,
although a popular day, I can still offer a discount to provide the Wedding
Disco Music Entertainment for the evening wedding party, but for a wedding on a
Sunday to Thursday, considerable discounts can be negotiated with many wedding
service providers and again, this is certainly the case for myself personally.
Some brides and grooms that I speak
with at Wedding Fairs etc. question a midweek wedding because ‘most of our
guests will be working’. My response is always that they should feel honoured
to be invited to your wedding and if given plenty of notice of your date, will
therefore arrange time off work and even treat it as a mini break. It is your
wedding and up to you what you do and when you do it and if you can have the
same quality of everything for a fraction of the price of a Saturday wedding
for a midweek wedding, then why would you not consider that midweek option?
Another option is to consider a Bank Holiday Sunday Wedding. The same discounts
should apply, and your guests will have the Monday off work anyway. If your
guests want to come, they will come and move their lives around to accommodate
your special day.
Why can these discounts be offered?
Well, speaking for myself and I’m sure similarities can be found with many
other wedding service providers, I would rather be out providing Disco
Entertainment on a night I am usually otherwise at home watching TV. This gives
me an extra working night on top of the usually busy Friday and Saturday and
therefore I am happy to offer a decent discount just to give me a bit extra
through the week. If you can generate a midweek wedding booking at an otherwise
quiet time for a venue, this will give them a good income, not to mention the
extra bedrooms sold, bar take etc., but they still have their usual busy
weekend trade too. Win win for everyone.
Recommendations & Reviews - Reviews and references are the
way of the world nowadays. For example, when we do online shopping, most of us
check out the reviews on the product before clicking to buy. Personal
recommendations and reviews from previous clients are important and a great guideline
if you are looking to book a DJ for your special occasion. However, though some
can be genuine, also be aware of DJ recommendations from friends or family
members, as often appear from generic ‘Selling Page’ Facebook searches for a
DJ. that may not be quite as transparent as a genuine review from a satisfied
client after a successful event. Always look for a Wedding DJ, or Wedding
Service Provider who is professional enough to have his own website as well as a free business Facebook page.
Work With Your Order of Priorities – So, with your date and budget
planned, it’s a good idea to think about which aspects of your wedding are most
important to you both, and then work through them in priority order. Number 1
is the day & date and making sure you have a registrar or vicar booked. Without
this, your wedding cannot happen and be legal. Then comes the venue of course,
as you need to know where your wedding is due to take place and to be able to
provide your guests with ‘Save The Date’ notifications. Once you have booked
and organised what could be deemed as ‘the non-negotiable essentials, you can then
start working your way through the next set of priorities, The Wedding Dress,
The Suits, The Wedding Disco Entertainment, The Cake, The Photographer, The Flowers,
The Videographer, The Transport, The Rings. Next may come your ‘it would be
nice to have’ list with lots of extras that won’t make the difference to your
wedding or memories that you will create or make it any better but are nice to
have. That way, if your ‘nice to haves’ take you over your budget, then not a
problem, you don’t need them, and it won’t make a difference at all.
Be Aware of the ‘Warning Signs’ – During your wedding planning
journey, you may come across a few doubts or niggles in your head, especially
when it comes to the people you are trusting with important elements of your
big day. It’s good to be able to recognise and act upon these signs. For
example, if a Wedding Service Supplier that you have negotiations with and are considering
engaging or have paid a deposit to becomes uncooperative, evasive,
uncontactable, rude or unpredictable, these are probably the sorts of people /
businesses you may need to consider avoiding and cutting your losses. Always
get anything you have agreed in writing for your peace of mind and likewise for
the providers too. It provides proof for both sides.
Don’t Be Pressurised To Be Like
Others – There’s a
good chance that as you are planning your wedding, there will be lots of
stories and tips from friends who are already married or from friends who went
to other weddings, like what type of invitations they sent out, or table
decorations, or venue decorations etc. This can provide you with stress and
make you feel as though you are maybe in a competition with an unknown opponent?
No need. It’s your wedding. Take on-board advice, tips and comments, but this
is your wedding. Make it your own and do exactly what you want. There is no
right or wrong way. Only Your way!!